DH and I have been going to couples therapy. It’s too soon to really say if it’s helpful or not, as the counselor is still gathering our story . What I found very surprising today was to learn that DH found out his mother told another friend about my pregnancy before we gave permission to… Continue reading A little update…the things you learn in couples therapy
I’ve been thinking about this a lot over the last umpteenth months/years. I’ve been consistent, polite, understanding that it’s hard to switch gears when your child marries someone and there are new rules. And yet I’ve been met with severe resistance over every little thing. A story as an example…. I was a single mom… Continue reading Boundaries… Why Do the JN’s Refuse to Respect Them, Even Fight Them?
CW – family death. Maybe more about religious abuse and miscarriages as the night goes on. Who knows. OLdStNope is my public piety performance MiL. All about the looks. To everyone. For me the mask slips. Guilting. Telling me god said I wasn’t good enough to her. Telling me I grieved miscarriages wrong. Called me… Continue reading Hubby coming home messed up and snippy because of mil OSN. Going to be a fun evening. Might be live updates.
My spouses family have been JN’s for years but this year it finally came to a head and he was ready to be done as well. But they keep finding ways to make him feel like crap for walking away . He said he wanted to maintain a relationship as their son/brother but all they… Continue reading How to support spouse?
TW: abuse, drug use. Normal intro here – long time lurker, very first time posting here. Mobile formatting. I recently married my dear husband just about two or three weeks ago. A simple, cheap wedding of 25 people, friends and family, and it was perfect for us. We’ve been together since 2019 so we have… Continue reading I think that I’m in the clear.
Please don’t share my post. Sorry for any formatting issues. On mobile, and it’s my first post. My JNMIL is always saying “my boy”, “my boys”, “my baby”. Any time she refers to my significant other, and son. At first I just ignored it like I do with most things she says or does because… Continue reading JNMIL always using “My” starting to annoy me.
Our youngest’s second birthday was recently and while the grandparents were over celebrating my step mil started coming at me all annoyed because they don’t know where the wedding is. We’re getting married in a little less than three months and we’ve told her and my fil at least three or four times where the… Continue reading Step mil acting like she hasn’t been told anything about our wedding and coming at me during our daughter’s birthday party.
I love my DH but god damn do I hate his family. JNMIL is a narcissistic, manipulative user of people and is only satisfied when you do something for her, whether it’s gifts, chores or just flat out making her family look good. She has an unhealthy attachment to all her kids and will continue… Continue reading Is it even worth it anymore
Currently pregnant with my first child and when I make conversation with my MIL about baby, she always asks to be included. Example – “I can’t wait to take the baby to see Christmas lights for the first time” or “Can you imagine them at the ranch?” And she immediately pips in and asks to… Continue reading No, You Can’t Come to Everything
Just an update for everyone. My bf & i are cutting contact completely off my mother in law & my bfs older brother & wife currently. My mil is an alcoholic & is verbally abusive & mean to my bf & i. Last night my mil crossed a line where i do not think the… Continue reading What is it like cutting off contact from mil?